With a few exceptions, women generally do not find porn to be properly, uh,
stimulating. The reason?
1. The women in porn generally are not treated with the same kind of respect and affection that real women get in the real world. I have seen a fair sampling of porn over the past few years and have been, for the most part, utterly turned off. In many instances the women in said porn were treated like nothing more than sperm receptacles, having no more importance than the pillow under her butt.
2. The production quality really sucks. Most of what I’ve seen looks like it was shot with a consumer grade video camera in some cheap motel. Harsh white lights, tacky bedspreads, 1970s décor, etc., etc.
3. The men are gross. Skinny guys with hairy backs and a decided lack of “face-appeal.”
4. The costumes. The women, if wearing anything, look like two-dollar street walkers with red fishnet hose and sleazy peek-a-boo teddys. But the men are far worse. I’ve even seen some pornos where the guys don’t even take off their shoes!
5. The complete lack of seduction. Pretty much everybody agrees that the largest sexual organ is the brain. So, why does porn leave seduction out of the picture? In general, a woman wants to know that she is desired. That she is not just some object to be used and tossed aside after the man has gotten his rocks off. What about the chase? The catch? The climax? Women want to watch a film in which a woman falls for a guy who is drop-dead hot, focuses all his attention pursuing her and the spends the rest of the night pleasuring
her.
I’ve heard of a more woman-friendly porn industry emerging, but I’ve yet to really see anything that meets my standards. So, in the meantime, I will pre-heat my oven with saucy reads and sexy mainstream cinema. Which is just fine with me.
And if you’re looking for a little “bed-time” reading, check out my short story,
A Taste of Italy. I’m sure you’ll be begging for second helpings!
Ciao,
Lucie
